Hey, what’s up everyone? Jason Polk here again, giving you some coffee shop relationship advice, and full disclosure, that’s actually a kombucha, because I don’t know if you know this, but for us therapist type people, kombucha actually helps us talk about feelings. So I also want to give shout out to Shannon, thanks for the dad mug, and if you want your name dropped on this channel, add a comment, and you’ll get your name dropped right here and you will get a little bit of fame.
So I want to talk about relationship goals today, and the main relationship goal I want to talk about, is making your relationship a priority. Now, if you make your relationship a priority, I’m not talking about you as an individual not having any needs or doing everything that your partner wants you to do. What I’m talking about is the more you convey the relationship is a priority, the more freedom and autonomy you will have. So if your partner is not worried that you care, they won’t have negative thoughts about the importance of the connection, they will assume that the connection is a priority to you, based on the trust that you have put in the relationship of making it a priority.
Now, let me give you an example of something that if you do this over time, will be bad news for you. “Hey babe, I know we have date night tonight, but my really good bro is in town. Can we reschedule?”
So there’s nothing inherently wrong with that, but the more you continue to do that over time, the more it’s going to be bad news for you, because your partner is going to feel that your connection together is not important for you. So let me give you an example of how you can correct this. You just got a text from your bro, he’s in town, say something like this. “Hey bro, I’m stoked that you are in town, but my wife and I, we had this thing planned. How about breakfast tomorrow?” So the more you convey that the connection with your partner is the priority, the more freedom and autonomy you will have to enjoy your bromance. And also remember that you live with your partner. If you’re in a committed relationship, you don’t go home with your bro. So if you have any questions, please drop them in the comments below, and I will make a video and answer them. Thank you so much.
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