“The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.”

 

 

Welcome to Colorado Relationship Recovery!

 

  • Colorado Relationship Recovery (Formerly Know as Paramita Counseling)

Colorado Relationship Recovery was founded to better describe what I do. As a marriage counselor and couple therapist, I work with couples to help you recover the relationship you both deserve. We all yearn to be happy and to have a mutually supportive relationship; if you two have lost this, let’s work to recover it.

I also help individuals recover a healthy relationship with one’s self. As humans, we are incredibly hard on ourselves, and we don’t trust our ability to handle life on life’s terms. We also have an incredibly low threshold for discomfort and pain. As a result, we usually move to feel better at the expense of getting better. We look for a quick fix instead of being with and looking at our discomfort.

Who can blame us for doing this?

The problem is: it often impedes our growth as individuals and within our relationship.

I work to help you recover your relationships in order to thrive and fully appreciate life. When you improve your relationship with your partner, you improve the relationship with yourself. When you improve the relationship with yourself, you improve your relationship with your partner.

  • Marriage Counseling & Couple Therapy
    Happy couple sharing tea
    My wife Jessica and I on a nice fall day.

I work with couples at any stage of the relationship.

I offer marriage counseling and couple therapy for couples experiencing anything from minor misattunements to those experiencing several years of discord.

My special interests are working with couples struggling with substance abuse issues and/or affairs.

Q: Do you offer premarital counseling?

A: Yes, I thoroughly enjoy premarital counseling for couples wanting to create a strong foundation. We address any concerns about your future, in addition to big-ticket items such as money, kids, sex, and where you two see your relationship in 5 to 10 years.

Q: What is your training in marriage counseling & couple therapy?

A: I am a PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) Level II trained therapist. The therapeutic stance of PACT is that a secure-functioning relationship enables you two to be seen, understood, and loved. It provides an opportunity for intimacy, and for you two to be your true selves. I am also currently training in Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT) model.

Q: How long does couple therapy take?

A: That depends on you two. I do, however, operate within a frame of longer sessions. Since my sessions are 2-3 hours long — with the initial session being 3 hours — we are able to get a lot of work done and steam going in the beginning. The longer sessions are fun, and after the initial session, couples begin to have hope — if that has been missing in the relationship.

As a result of longer sessions, a fewer frequency of sessions are needed. It has been my experience that couples usually always appreciate this approach.

  • Individual Counseling

I am also passionate about working with individuals struggling with addiction, relationship issues, anxiety as well as spiritual and existential questions. I appreciate when men make it to therapy, as it is a sign of strength despite outdated cultural mores.

  • Fact of Life

There is one glaring fact of life: someday we will die. So we better get on appreciating ourselves and loving each other. Whether in a committed relationship or not, we owe it to ourselves and each other to be happy. We don’t know how much time we have. So let’s get on with loving each other and appreciating life!

I believe William Sloane Coffin Jr. summed it up pretty well:

The world is too dangerous for anything but truth and too small for anything but love.

Thank you for visiting my website, I look forward to crossing over to the other shore with you.

Below is an intro video to me and my practice. It needs to be updated as my practice was called Paramita Counseling at the time: