This is a primer on attachment style. Attachment style is the basic relational state of mind to which we revert once the initial infatuation phase of the relationship is over. I want to discuss the basic fears and antidotes to those fears for two prominent…
When we are in an intimate relationship and feel vulnerable, defensive or shameful, usually it’s our old stuff that is being triggered — patterns of interaction that we developed with our parents. When we are young, we learn to act and respond in ways that…
Recently I attended a six-day Zen meditation retreat, or sesshin in Japanese, which included the celebration of Rohatsu, December 8, said to be the day that Siddhartha Gautama, the Buddha, came to his great enlightenment. As a couple therapist and student of attachment theory, I…