I know how painful relationship problems can be, I have been divorced. Disconnection hurts, whether it’s occurred over time, or has occurred suddenly by the discovery of an infidelity or a betrayal.
After my divorce, I decided I wanted to help couples avoid such experiences. Already being a therapist, I sought training in the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT), and I have continued training in the relational life therapy (RLT) model.
Helping couples is my vocation and passion.
I was far from being a relational-pro in my previous relationships. But now I believe everyone can recover and have a healthy, intimate relationship.
Who among us doesn’t want to feel loved? — Stan Tatkin
Since we are social beings, we are wired to seek a secure connection. When our relationship is functioning from a place of security and mutuality, intimacy has space to grow. Since we are most vulnerable in our intimate relationship, we need such security in order to be at ease and deeply connect.
Couple therapy helps with problems resulting from:
- Substance Abuse
- Lack of connection
Frame of Sessions
Q: How long does couple therapy take?
A: That depends on you two. However, I operate within a frame of longer sessions. My sessions are 2-3 hours long — with the initial session being 3 hours, and subsequent sessions 2 hours. The reason for this is that we are able to get a lot of work done and momentum going in the beginning. Another benefit of longer sessions is that fewer sessions are usually required.
I also offer couple intensives, please inquire if you wish to meet for a 5-hour session broken up by lunch.
When couples are in a good place, I offer subsequent 1-hour sessions for tune-ups.
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Published by the PACT Institute
In this PACT newsletter, I briefly share my personal experience with secure-functioning.
In this PACT blog post, I wrote on the importance of primacy for partners with blended families.