9:30 am – 12:30 pm:

• Ground rules and participate wishes

• Background: what drew you two together in the first place, how long you’ve been together, and brief overview of n

• Goals: “If you two were to leave today and think, ‘That was a great day’ what would we have accomplished?

• What areas of intimacy really resonate for you and what would you especially like more of?

• Emotional connection. Sharing vulnerability aka “What’s really real.”

• Physical connection. Sharing touch, handholding, hugging and cuddling.

• Sexual connection. Giving and receiving erotic pleasure and touch

• Spiritual connection. Existential sharing as well as religion and higher power

• Intellectual connection. Sharing thoughts, questions, insights and politics (in a friendly way)

• Identify negative cycles and patterns and what you can do to get out of them.

• Where do certain stances and losing strategies come from?

• Working with the parts of you that at times, does not want to be relational or use tools.

1:45 pm – 4 pm:

• Building positive cycles. What makes your partner feel loved or at ease?

• What are some of your partner’s vulnerabilities?

• Practicing relationship tools such as Time Outs, vulnerability, Feedback Wheel.

Envisioning the future.

• Where do you two want to be in the future?

• What do you want your kids saying about your relationship when they are older!

The first day is the same as above and the second day we’ll have the option to explore how your family of origin shows up presently in your relationship

Or, some couples like to keep more of the focus present day and use this day to continue to practice  the tools. :

Why talk about family of origin and growing up in the context of our relationship?

Our parents were our first relationship school. They taught us what connection and autonomy mean and our basic reflexes come from here.

Another reason is for empathy. Empathy for yourself and empathy for your partner, I’ve found it powerful to explore this in the context of your relationship together.

Lastly, it’s to help you work with the younger parts of you that at times don’t wish to be relational.

Before the Two-Day Intensive you will be sent the Developmental and Relational Trauma Assessment (DART) developed by the Healing Our Core Issues Institute (HOCI) that will be completed prior.

Here’s an exampale of the optional second day, all exercises will be done in the presence of each other.

9:30 am – 12:30 pm

• Partner 1, Individual debriefing session with your DART assessment. During this time, you will continue the process of getting your story straight.

• Partner 2. Individual debriefing session with our DART assessment

Summary, how does this come up today?

1:45 pm – 4 pm.

• Compassionate meeting with the inner-child part of you.

• Gentle summary of our work together.

I’ve been in hopeless places in past relationships. I’ve gone through a divorce. I know the hurt of disconnection and the sadness of confusion.

I’m a lifelong learner and in addition to HOCII certification, I’ve studied and trained with internationally known relationship therapists such as Stan Takin and Terry Real.

I’m a Level II PACT (psychobiological approach to couple therapy) therapist, and I’m certified in RLT (relational life therapy).

Basically, this means that I’ve spent a lot or money and time learning how to effectively help couples.

I’m happily married now, and I want to help you two get there.

Two-day Intensive $4000 (with 2, 1-hr follow up sessions) – limited to 1 slot per month

One-day Intensive $2200 (with 2, 1-hr follow up sessions) – limited to 2 slots per month

Reach out: intensives@coloradorelationshiprecovery.com

Set up a time below to see if an intensive is a good fit for you two!