Counseling for Couples

Through my training in PACT & RLT and my experience with couples, I have identified core skills and phases of relationship health that I call:

Relationship Recovery

In our journey together you will take away core skills that will allow your relationship to grow and flourish into the future.

  • Core skills and goals:
    • Increase empathy for each other’s needs
    • Identify and communicate your own needs
    • Understand your partner’s fears and vulnerabilities
      • Know what can alleviate those fears
    • Take ownership of your side of the relationship house
    • Learn how to be vulnerable to connect and repair
    • Establish healthy boundaries and limits
    • Known when and how to ask for space
    • Heal from past hurt
    • Develop gratitude and appreciation for your partner

Each relationship is unique. These phases are lenses that inform my work and are customized to each couple. 

Phase 1: Willingness to work on the relationship

In this phase, we will examine each partner’s willingness to work on the relationship. Here we will help partners understand their conflict style and what they are doing that gets in the way of what they want. The objective is to identify what each person needs to do to take care of their side of the relationship house.

Phase 2: Understanding your partner’s pain points

Here we will identify you and your partner’s pain points and what you are saying or doing that makes them worse. The purpose is to have empathy and understanding for each other’s fears, vulnerabilities, triggers and attachment styles.

Phase 3: Helping your partner succeed

In understanding each other’s pain points and what makes them worse, here you will practice the antidote to these pain points. This means learning and practicing what you can say and do that provides relief and healing — that enables your partner to be the best version of themselves. Also, here partners will learn the importance of asking for what they want and communicating these needs clearly and effectively — helping your partner help you.

Phase 4: Repair and reconnect

Learning how to lead with vulnerability and relief instead of anger or shame. Reaching underneath those feelings and giving something for your partner to connect with. Here partners will also learn how listening is the best way to bring each other back into harmony when in distress.

Phase 5: Accepting your partner’s imperfections

Learning how to appreciate and accept each other for who they are (perfectly imperfect) and not who you wish they to be. Cherishing each other and creating relationship goals, values, and mutual agreements. Building a lasting framework for your relationship to thrive and grow.

The Relationship Recovery Program helps with problems resulting from:

Frame of Sessions

Q: How long does couple therapy take?

A: That depends on you two. However, I operate within a frame of longer sessions so couples don’t have to wait 2-3 weeks to experience results and hope.

  • For high-conflict couples or for couples on the brink of divorce, an initial 3-hour session, or a couples intensive is recommended.
  • For couples who may not be experiencing an immediate crisis, but are committed to building a better relationship, an initial 2-hour session is recommended.
  • When couples are on the road to secure-functioning and relationship recovery, subsequent 1.5-hour or 1-hour sessions are recommended.

Feel free to call or set up a free 15-minute phone consultation to discuss.

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Published in the PACT Institute

  • In this PACT blog post, I write on how to repair with vulnerability.
  • In this PACT blog post, I write on the importance of partner primacy in blended families.

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Below are unsolicited testimonials that clients have taken the time to write.

“If you are looking for a marriage therapist, or just wanting a tune-up, I highly recommend Jason. We have seen other therapists before and none of them are as skilled as he is. His exercises he had us do, and his ability to get to the heart of issues is amazing. We didn’t get lost in the weeds. I wish we would have found him years ago!  We are so grateful to have found him now and for the future.”

“Jason – you were incredible! Thanks for an extremely productive visit.”

“The approach was great.”

“Jason is highly trained in cutting-edge methods to guide couples who are struggling to keep their relationship together. Both of us were equally comfortable with his ability to listen to each of us with sensitivity. We were fortunate to find him at just the right time.”

“Jason I really like you and your approach and I will be happy to refer you in the future. Thank you for your help.”

“Thank you so much for all of your help, humor, and advice and we will definitely be in touch if we start reverting to our old habits or just feel the need for a tune up.” 

“We really enjoyed meeting with you, and found it very helpful!”

“Good meeting tonight. Things are good, we’re moving in a really good direction. We both want to give you a huge thank you.”