I know how painful relationship problems can be, I have been divorced. Disconnection hurts, whether it’s occurred over time, or has occurred suddenly by the discovery of an infidelity or a betrayal.
After my divorce, I decided I wanted to help couples avoid such experiences. Already being a therapist, I sought training in the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT), and I have continued training in the relational life therapy (RLT) model.
Helping couples is my vocation and passion.
I was far from being a relational pro in my previous relationships. But now I believe everyone can recover and have a healthy, intimate relationship.
Who among us doesn’t want to feel loved? — Stan Tatkin
Since we are social beings, we are wired to seek a secure connection. When our relationship is functioning from a place of security and mutuality, intimacy has space to grow. Since we are most vulnerable in our intimate relationship, we need such security in order to be at ease and deeply connect.
Counseling for couples helps with problems resulting from:
- Substance Abuse
- Lack of connection
Frame of Sessions
Q: How long does couple therapy take?
A: That depends on you two. However, I operate within a frame of longer sessions. For high-conflict couples or couples on the brink of divorce, an initial 3-hour session is recommended. If you are uncertain if this is your relationship, call me or set up a free 15-minute phone consultation.
For couples who may not be experiencing immediate crisis, but are committed to building a better relationship, an initial 2-hour session is recommended.
I work in the context of longer sessions so couples don’t have to wait 2-3 weeks to start experiencing significant results. Longer sessions provide the frame to get positive momentum going in the beginning, and couples can experience hope quicker.
I also offer couple intensives, please inquire if you wish to meet for a 5-hour session broken up by lunch.
When couples are on the tracks of secure-functioning, I offer subsequent 1-hour sessions for tune-ups.
To set up an initial phone consultation or schedule an appointment click below:
Published by the PACT Institute
In this PACT newsletter, I briefly share my personal experience with secure-functioning.
In this PACT blog post, I wrote on the importance of primacy for partners with blended families.
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