Relationship Recovery Model
In our journey together you will take away core skills that will allow your relationship to grow and flourish into the future.
- Core skills and goals:
- Increase empathy for each other’s needs
- Understand your conflict style
- Taking ownership of your side of the relationship house
- Learn how to be vulnerable
- Establishing healthy boundaries and limits
- Knowing when and how to ask for space
- Healing from past hurt
- Developing gratitude and appreciation for your partner
Each relationship is unique. These phases are the lenses that inform my work and are customized to each couple.
In this phase, we will examine each partner’s willingness to work on the relationship. Here we will help partners understand their conflict style and what they are doing that gets in the way of what they want. The objective is to identify what each person needs to do to take care of their side of the relationship house.
Here we will identify you and your partner’s pain points and what you are saying or doing that makes them worse. The purpose is to have empathy and understanding for each other’s fears, vulnerabilities, triggers and attachment styles.
In understanding each other’s pain points and what makes them worse, here you will practice the antidote to these pain points. This means learning and practicing what you can say and do that provides relief and healing — that enables your partner to be the best version of themselves. Also, here partners will learn the importance of asking for what they want and communicating these needs clearly and effectively — helping your partner help you.
Learning how to lead with vulnerability and relief instead of anger or shame. Reaching underneath those feelings and giving something for your partner to connect with. Here partners will also learn how listening is the best way to bring each other back into harmony when in distress.
Learning how to appreciate and accept each other for who they are (perfectly imperfect) and not who you wish they to be. Cherishing each other and creating relationship goals, values, and mutual agreements. Building a lasting framework for your relationship to thrive and grow.
The Relationship Recovery Program helps with problems resulting from:
- Lack of connection
Frame of Sessions
Q: How long does couple therapy take?
A: That depends on you two. However, I operate within a frame of longer sessions so couples don’t have to wait 2-3 weeks to experience results and hope.
- For high-conflict couples or for couples on the brink of divorce, an initial 3-hour session, or a couples intensive is recommended.
- For couples who may not be experiencing an immediate crisis, but are committed to building a better relationship, an initial 2-hour session is recommended.
- When couples are on the road to secure-functioning and relationship recovery, subsequent 1.5-hour or 1-hour sessions are recommended.
Feel free to call or set up a free 15-minute phone consultation to discuss.
Published in the PACT Institute
- In this PACT blog post, I write on how to repair with vulnerability.
- In this PACT blog post, I write on the importance of partner primacy in blended families.
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