I know how painful relationship problems can be, I have been divorced. Disconnection hurts, whether it’s occurred over time, or has occurred suddenly by the discovery of an infidelity or a betrayal.
After my divorce, I decided I wanted to help couples avoid such experiences. Already being a therapist, I sought training in the psychobiological approach to couple therapy (PACT), and I have continued training in relational life therapy (RLT).
Helping couples is my vocation and passion.
I was far from being a relational pro in my previous relationships. But now I believe everyone can recover and have a healthy, intimate relationship.
Who among us doesn’t want to feel loved? Finally to be able to be ourselves just as we are, to feel cherished, cared for, and protected… — Stan Tatkin
Since we are social beings, we are wired to seek a secure connection.
When our relationship is functioning from a place of security and mutuality, intimacy has space to grow. Since we are most vulnerable in our intimate relationship, we need such security in order to be at ease and to deeply connect. Strong, healthy relationships have been shown to be a protective factor for our memory and overall health.
Counseling for couples helps with problems resulting from:
- Lack of connection
Frame of Sessions
Q: How long does couple therapy take?
A: That depends on you two. However, I operate within a frame of longer sessions so couples don’t have to wait 2-3 weeks to experience results and hope. For high-conflict couples or for couples on the brink of divorce, an initial 3-hour session, or a couple intensive is recommended. Feel free to call me or set up a free 15-minute phone consultation to discuss.
- For couples who may not be experiencing an immediate crisis, but are committed to building a better relationship, an initial 2-hour session is recommended.
- When couples are on the road to secure-functioning, subsequent 1-hour sessions are recommended when needed.
Set up an initial phone consultation or schedule an appointment to move towards relationship health:
Published in the PACT Institute
- In this PACT blog post, I wrote on the importance of primacy for partners with blended families.
- In this PACT newsletter, I briefly share my personal experience with secure-functioning.
Highlights from the blog:
- Avoiding Projections Through Appreciation
- Sex: Connecting not Performing
- Relational Heroism and Revising the Family Playbook
- Being at Home in Relationship: Taking Care of Your Side of the House